Let’s clear up some terminology issues that I see a lot:
- Asexuality is a sexual orientation, defined by not feeling sexual attraction to other people. It’s not a choice. Celibacy is a behavior pattern, defined by not having sex, and it is a choice.
- A sex-repulsed or sex-averse person finds some or all sex-related things unappealing, or even unpleasant, and might not want to participate in them. Being sex-repulsed is usually not a choice. It is not related to how a person believes other people should behave sexually.
- Sex-negativity and sex-positivity are attitudes or ideas about how people in general should behave sexually. It is also possible to be neither sex-positive nor sex-negative.
- Asexuality, celibacy and sex-repulsion are things that reflect someone’s private experiences of sexuality, and they do not imply anything about how that person believes other people should behave. A person with any or all of these traits could be sex-negative, sex-positive or neither.
- It is possible to support sexual agency and freedom for other people without being sex-positive. Some people do this because they have qualms with parts of the sex-positive movement. So a person who doesn’t call themself sex-positive isn’t necessarily sex-negative.
Also, bonus words!
- Sex-indifferent means not repulsed by or averse to sexual things, whereas sex-neutral is more often used to mean someone who is neither sex-negative nor sex-positive.
- Some people are sex-repulsed in some ways but sex-indifferent in other ways.
- I don’t know of a common word for “likes having sex” but I use “sex-enjoying” for that. (I figure it’s useful to distinguish between asexual people who like having sex versus those who just don’t mind it.)